LOVE
Love is a feeling that wants to share together or a feeling of affection towards someone. Another opinion, love is an action / active activity by man against another object, such self-sacrifice, empathy, attention, give love, help, obey the word, to follow, obedient, and willing to do whatever the desired object.
Definition
Love is one word which contain adequate meaning of complex feelings. Can be natural all beings. The use of the word love is also influenced during development. Sentiasa word change its meaning according to the responses, understanding and use within the state, the position and the generation of different communities. The nature of love in the sense of the 21st century may be different than centuries ago. Expression of love may be used to vent feelings as follows:
1. The feeling of family
2. Feelings against friends, or philia
3. Feelings of romantic love or also called
4. A feeling that only a kemahuan, desire lust or love eros
5. Fellow feeling or so-called love or agape
6. Feelings about or against itself, which is called narcissism
7. Feelings toward a particular concept
8. Feelings against the country or patriotism
9. Feelings against the nation or nationalism
Use of the word love in the people of Indonesia and Malaysia are more influenced word love in English. Love is used in all the practice and meaning to eros, philia, agape, and storge. However, the words that are better suited still be found in the language serantau and described as follows:
1. Love is more inclined to the romantic, romance and lust, eros
2. Unfortunately that is more inclined to friends and family, philia
3. Love is more inclined to family and God, agape
4. The spirit of the homeland is more inclined to patriotism, nationalism and narcissism, storge
Etymology
Some languages, including Indonesian or Malay language when compared with some recent languages in Europe, looks more vocabulary in expressing these concepts. Including ancient Greek, which distinguishes between three or more concepts: eros, philia, and agape.
Love is a feeling of sympathy that involves deep emotion. According to Erich Fromm, there are four requirements to achieve love, namely:
1. Introduction
2. Responsibility
3. Attention
4. Mutual respect
Erich Fromm in his best-selling book (the art of loving) states that the four symptoms: Care, Responsibility, Respect, Knowledge (CRRK), appear all in a balanced way in the person who loves. Nonsense, if someone says to love children but never care and no responsibility on the child. While the responsibility and care without respect and without any real sense would want to know more in plunging the parents, teachers, clergy, etc. on an authoritarian attitude.
Types of love
Like many types of lovers, there are many kinds of love. Love was in throughout all of human culture. Because of this cultural difference, then the definition of love is hard to set. See the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis.
Expressions of love may include the love of 'soul' or mind, love of law and organizations, love, loss, love nature, love food, love money, love learning, love power, love, fame, etc.. Love is more directed to the abstract concept, easier experienced than explained.
Love that already exists needs to be kept for their beauty can be maintained
Love interpersonal
Interpersonal love refers to love between human beings. This form is more than just a sense of joy to others. Interpersonal love relationships can include lovers, parent relationships with children, and also a very close friendship.
Some elements are often present in interpersonal love:
* Affection: respect for others.
* Altruism: a non-selfish attention to others (which is very rare to find nowadays).
* Reciprocation: mutual love (not exploit each other.)
* Commitment: a desire to perpetuate the love, strong determination in a relationship.
* Emotional intimacy: sharing emotions and feeling.
* Kinship: family bonds.
* Passion: Desire and / or sexual desire that tends to the passionate.
* Physical intimacy: sharing of life close to each other physically, including sexual relations.
* Self-interest: the love that expect personal benefits, tend to be selfish and there is a desire to take advantage of the couple.
* Service: desire to help and / or serve.
* Gay: Love and sexual desire in people or the same sex, especially for men. For women called Lesbian (lesbian).
Sexual energy can become the most important element in determining the form of the relationship. But sexual attraction often creates a new bond, sexual desire is considered bad or inappropriate in some bond of love. In many religions and systems of ethics it is considered wrong to have sexual desires to the family closer, child, or outside of a committed relationship. But many ways to express affection without sex. Affection, emotional intimacy and the same very unusual hobby of making friends and brothers in all humans.
