Life Principle
maslowAbraham Maslow (1970) in the article "A Theory of Human Motivation" Motivation and Personality in the book has set goals of life and our human needs in a hierarchical ladder. Bottom of the stairs is the biological impulses of man, namely the need for fed-board, as well as sex and so forth. On it there is a need and purpose of the next human, namely the need for security, appreciation, sense of belonging and owned, love and a good image. At the top of the stairs, Maslow placed the highest aspirations of human beings: freedom and perfection. He called it self-actualization. Perhaps we'll never reach the top of the ladder, but really that's what makes us continue to fight. Something we want to always be tempting desires as long as we have not managed to have it.
P. Clayton Alderfer (1982) summarizes the theory of Maslow's needs into only three stages, namely:
* Real situation (Existence), includes a biological necessity and the need for security;
* Sustainability (Relatedness), incorporating some of the need for security with the need to be accepted and recognized and the need for a good image;
* Increased (Growth), incorporating some of the need to have a good image with the need to obtain a better image.
Socrates said, life was never tested is not a meaningful life. Sooner or later we will always ask ourselves: I live ... for what? This important question can sometimes be painful, but still must be asked and answered. When asked to yourself, it is our general matters affecting the physical enjoyment of our answers. Head we save a lot of ideal and easy answers we say as easy as pressing the right button, but really that's ideal answers we are struggling in everyday life?
Dag Hammarskjold once said that the longest journey is the journey through the depths of our own. Carl Jung, psychiatrist self-renewal was written in the book Memories, Dreams, Reflections: "Wherever there is a reaching down into innermost experience, into the nucleus of personality, most people are overcome by Fright, and many run away ... The risk of inner experience , the adventure of the spirit, is in any case, the alien to most human Beings. "
So, to what life is real? To find the answer, perhaps it is better if we take a moment to follow the urging of John Powell, SJ (1995): write stuff that has become our life experience. Write a list of successes and failures, tears and laughter in our lives in the past to what just happened, the fall and the satisfaction we've ever experienced. Complete records with a type of pleasure, power or force that we all long for, the amount of money we want into our wealth, fame level that we want to achieve, relationships with others that we want to intertwine. Then, ask yourself: What kind of life we want? In between all that, which really was the hope of our present and future?
Another way, might well also envision a day in the life journey that we consider perfect, or make a list of ten activities that we most like. When reflect on it, we may find one or two or our own desires and needs in a clearer perspective. For example, if we find that in the days that we think is perfect or among ten activities that really we like it is when we're alone, maybe we have been digging and discovered that we need it: in the deepest recesses of ourselves, the pent-up desire to be alone or even rejection of a real relationship that is in front of our eyes.
Should we open ourselves to this question: I live for what? We almost always rushed in daily life. What am I doing? Is my life like a series of scheduled activities or unorganized, various meetings, clean up my desk, answering phones, moving from one crisis to the next crisis? Sempatkah I think of a plan for next week? Next year? Or just go with the flow? When you wake up in the morning, if I remember greet and thank the Lord? Do I feel like I'm joining a contest of survival? Do I feel trapped in a complicated life? Or life I lead just like river water flowing from upstream into the estuary? Have I ever asked: How long I can survive like this?
Some of us fear - as stated by Carl Jung - to answer such questions because the answers may be vague. We would more often expect others - who actually do not really understand our needs - will provide answers to the advice-advice. Of course, the advice of others may be the answer to our question, but certainly more realistic and important to change ourselves with our own answers.
Meaning of Life Principles
The principle of life is the most important thing we want is generally done when we are faced with the choices in certain situations. For example, if one of the principles of our life is "Every human being should be loved, but his crime should be denied!" Then when we are confronted with such situations, the principle of our lives that will lead us to the decision to keep trying to love people who have done evil and trying to it helped him out of his crime.
Every person should have his own principles. Maybe difficult to mention one of the most dominant because the principle is generally only visible when exposed to the test. However, there should exist within each of us, linked with a variety of needs, goals or values that is flourishing within us. In the twists and turns of our lives, the principle is similar to a fragment of music that we always hear even though we face the situation could be different. Thus, we only ones who can answer this question: Is the principle of my life?
Just for example, there may be people who view security is above everything. He refused to come to all dangerous place, despite the danger it could be present everywhere. He did not want to take risks, gambling with death. Better to stay home at night and do not have uninvited guests. Better safe than sorry later at home. Something similar can be parsed in that person that the main concern and the principle of life is work, work, recognition, money, fame, specific needs, success, fun, relationships, acceptance of others, power and others.
Having a principle of life is a matter of psychology and related well with the economy. The principle guiding the owner to live more easily determine the choice. People who live principled pleasure, for example, if you get two invitations at the same time, will ask himself: Where I'll be more happy? Economically, the principle of life has shown the choice in a difficult situation and that is efficiency.
Well, do you realize the principle of your life berlandasan views of Sigmund Freud (pleasure principle), Alfred Adler (the principle of power / strength, achievement) or BF Skinner (the principle of freedom and responsibility), or a combination thereof, or the other ... and maybe even religious values that you profess? Or the principle of life is changing - in a sense becomes more stable and perfect - in accordance with the achievement phase of your life according to Maslow's needs or Alderfer? Whatever, hopefully the principle that makes your life more positive for yourself and others around you!
